We've all been there, standing in a group of civilians talking about their families, they ask what you do and you smile, "We're military". You see the look, you know what I'm talking about, yes, that look. They respond, "Oh I just don't think I could do it." This always cracks me up one side and down the other. What do they think? You are a glutton for punishment? They act like it's a physical choice of yours to be a part of this lifestyle. Any military spouse knows, it's not that you like to move around fifteen billion times in your life, that you enjoy having the movers trash your new armoire, or even that you enjoy living most of your life as a geographical bachelor/bachelorette, better known as a single, married person. Or maybe you enjoy the single parenting life of a married person? You don't choose it, sometimes it chose you, and sometimes it just is. It's what you do. So here are some tips to help you do it with grace, do it with style, and hey in the end you might end up actually liking it after all (well except for that being alone and armoire trashing action).
Seek out friends & support
Remember, some of your best friends and contacts you will make in the most unlikely places. Never stop growing, and never stop seeking new contacts.
Don't be afraid to seek help when you need it
Look, everyone has issues, and if they say they don't, then that is an issue in and of itself. Do not be afraid to seek help and talk to someone about your life. Even the happiest person or couple has things that they need to talk about once and awhile.
Remaining positive about your lifestyle choice is almost always a sanity-saving endeavor. At least it has been for me. Sure there are times when life throws you curveballs (more so than normal in a military career because SURPRISE! you're not in control).
Focus on what you want and go for it
Just because you are a military spouse doesn't mean you can't have your own life and career outside of being married to the military. Choose work or a volunteer position outside of the home if that is what makes you feel "complete".
Communicate & Share
This is the key to a successful marriage in the military. There will be times when you will be on your own without your spouse. That doesn't mean that you will be doing it all alone, unless you make it that way. Make a conscience effort, in presence or not, to communicate openly with your spouse about everything. Parent together, do finances together, be a "team".
Forest Gump says it best, "Life is like a box of chocolates - you never know what you're going to get". And yes, my friend, that statement rings even more true for military life.
How do YOU do it? Share some of your favorite tips for making the best of this journey!
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