Wendy Poling
Frequent Contributor

One of my favorite things to do during the summer is to pack up a beach towel, sunscreen, sunglasses, along with a great paperback book and head to my base pool or the beach. I've been to several base pools through the years and gosh they are fun. Fun because they are convenient, you usually know someone there and usually everyone behaves themselves. There is the base pool at our last sea duty station that brings back awesome memories. Then there is the base pool we visited while on vacation to visit family at Holloman Air Force Base, NM, which had an awesome slide and was...free. Yes, free. I miss that pool! Our current duty station does not have an outdoor pool, shocking I know. But then we do have a mini-lake open for the summer and we live minutes from the ocean.


What happens though when you are used to hanging out with your spouse at the pool or beach and frankly, you'd rather not even venture outside your door much less to the pool/ocean?


You go anyway.


Even if that means you go by yourself.


You'll find something surprising - I'm almost certain. There will be other spouses in your same situation; their spouse will be gone too. Now some will be there with their spouse, so you'll just need to roll with that when you see them and try not to lose your mind with jealousy if they are snuggling up to each other.


I encourage you during the last month of summer, before we start to head into September and the fall season, to make plans to hit the beach or the pool. If you have kids, pack up the pails and shovels and make a Saturday morning run for water. Plan your week so you get housework done a little bit each day this week if you normally save Saturdays for housecleaning day.


This is advice for me also. Living in New England our winter was long and cold. I've been taking advantage of the weekly sunset beach concerts they have in our local area and they have been so much fun and a relaxing way to end the day. I've even become organized enough to pack a picnic dinner!


Summertime fun can be hard to enjoy during a deployment.


Here's a challenge: make some plans to get out into the sunshine, take a dip in the pool or the ocean and let the cool water wash away the stresses of the day!