Military life can be a constant day of reflection. I know for me, there isn’t one day that I don’t think about the many milestones we have been through as a family – as well as the ones that my husband has missed. When I married my husband, I chose to walk this path hand-in-hand, one that can shift from high to low, straight to winding, but we never walk it alone. This commitment is what keeps things working as well as sprits high in moments when we need it the most.
Throughout this military life journey, we have created our very own milestones, ones that are unique to our very own life. They have provided guidance, insight and comfort. Helping us to cope with loss, separation and love along the way.
Here are the important milestones that we have created as a military family.
The Milestone of Perspective
Perspective is something that I have found in the 12 years I have been a military spouse. Having my husband away for multiple deployments, 12-15 months at a time, this gave me a lesson in life that I desperately needed. I saw what and who was truly important, family and friends.
The Milestone of Patience
I now understand more clearly why patience is a virtue. A good quality to have and instill in your children early. I am not saying that it is easy to be patient, frankly it was possibly the toughest out of all, but something that I knew would bring a reward in the end. Waiting overall is hard, but you learn that in military life it is a critical part of deployment and communication.
The Milestone of Gratitude
I can’t imagine going through this life without being grateful for what we have. I have made wonderful friends through this life that I would have never dreamed of having, those who stood by me. A civilian community that reached out to my family while my husband was away, lending a hand when needed and looking after us. I have so much gratitude for everyone that has befriended and backed us throughout this journey.
The Milestone of Joy
How can you be joyful when you’re raising children alone, have a husband at war, working full time, going to school, and having no time for yourself? You find the joy in everything that is good and you learn to throw the negativity away. Bad days come and go, but this life has taught me there is a lesson to be learned in every dilemma. My joy will shine onto my children and change the way we look at life.
What milestones have you created? Share with us in the comments below!
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About the blogger:
Angela Caban is an Army National Guard spouse, freelance writer, published author and branding expert. Her husband was one of the many soldiers impacted by the unprecedented activation of the National Guard in 2008. In 2010, she founded the Homefront United Network, a military spouse and family support blog created to assist spouses who do not live near an installation, but also focusing on bridging the gap between National Guard, Reserve and Active Duty spouses. She is also co-founder of SpouseTalks. As a branding and digital influencer, she has created content for A&E, Lifetime Network and PBS. She has an extensive background in Human Resources and Communications, with her Bachelor’s in Business Administration and a Master’s in Human Resources. Angela resides in the beautiful Garden State of New Jersey with her husband and two children.
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