My Resolution SolutionWhy wait for the new year to make changes in your life? If you need to commit to something or make a change to better yourself, wouldn’t you want to make that change as needed?


I get the idea behind making resolutions; change, commitment, and improvement. It gives you a positive start to a new year and reminds you that anything is possible with new beginnings.


It just doesn’t work for me.


I see so many of my friends on social media starting their new resolutions of losing weight, eating better, doing more in their communities, etc. By mid-February, those resolutions are long gone and never heard of again. University of Scranton research shows that 42.4% of people never succeed and fail on their resolution each year.


Are you in that 42.4%?


I have found in my life that living all year round the way I “resolve” to live every new year is a much better and a more fulfilling use of my time and energy. Instead of making resolutions once a year and keeping it for a couple of months, why not make a lifestyle change that will lead to the goals set? We are most definitely a society full of instant gratification (guilty here) and that sets many of us up for failure time and time again.


The big things that we typically resolve to change are not things that can be changed overnight. Losing weight is hard, it takes a commitment of years not just a gym membership and a couple of months. Eating better isn’t as simple as eating salads for a week and depriving yourself of chocolate or pizza. It’s about sitting down, evaluating goals and eating habits and making a plan. Being a better person and having a better attitude isn’t satisfied by cleaning out your closet and calling Goodwill for a donation pick-up or by being nice for a day. Being a better person requires us to really look at our lives and who we are.


Why set yourself up for failure?


Food for thought: Set goals that are long-term and that take into consideration who you know you are. Know your weaknesses.


Being realistic is key. What can you handle? What is a realistic goal for you to reach by the date you decide? No one wants to fail, so by being realistic with your timing, you can bypass the guilt later.


Food for thought: You don’t have to put a label on it. If you want to call it a resolution, do it. Or how about a promise, intention or just lifestyle change?


I look at is this way; by not making a yearly resolution; you can make an honest effort to change the things you are not completely happy with. If they don’t happen by year’s end, you don’t have to beat yourself up, just reevaluate the circumstances and try again. Also, you don’t have to wait for the new year to start over, every day is new start.

Don’t be afraid of failure, of not being perfect or in this case perfectly attaining a goal, however unrealistic it may be.

So in this new year, that’s my plan. No more setting improbable, unreachable goals. Time to cut myself some slack and not expect things from that I know aren’t doable. No more excuses, just honest goals that I am happy with and that don’t make me want to pull my hair out or force me to hide in a closet with a chocolate bar in the middle of the night. Enjoying life is what’s important- and honestly, what good is a world without chocolate or an occasional slice of pizza?


Do you make resolutions? Share with us in the comments below.


About the blogger: Angela Caban is an Army National Guard spouse, freelance writer, published author and branding expert. Her husband was one of the many soldiers impacted by the unprecedented activation of the National Guard in 2008. In 2010, she founded the Homefront United Network, a military spouse and family support blog created to assist spouses who do not live near an installation, but also focusing on bridging the gap between National Guard, Reserve and Active Duty spouses. She is also co-founder of SpouseTalks. As a branding and digital influencer, she has created content for A&E, Lifetime Network and PBS. She has an extensive background in Human Resources and Communications, with her Bachelor’s in Business Administration and a Master’s in Human Resources. Angela resides in the beautiful Garden State of New Jersey with her husband and two children.


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