Gaining Strength Out of the StruggleNo matter where you look, how old you are or how put together your life seems to be, struggle is everywhere. It may present itself daily, coming in different ways – or creep up slowly on us after a period of time where things seem close to perfect. There are two things that struggle does come along with each and every time, the way we deal with it and the outcome. Will we allow it to change us, learn from it, and build strength for the future?


Think about it, what would happen if we allowed the struggles to build our strength? What if we looked at these struggles as an opportunity and just shift our perspective? Can you find the silver lining in the struggle, even though it may feel like we are about to be destroyed?


While going through a challenge it can be difficult to find the bright side of things, but it isn’t impossible. The concept of this is not supposed to be easy, but with the right steps, it will help you to see things more clearly and start to build the strength needed to resolve the problem.


Step 1: Be Sympathetic towards the struggle. You need to have love and understanding in order to start building that strength you will need down the road. Ask yourself, “Will this break me?” Then move forward to a solution.


Step 2: Be aware. This means we are aware of the struggle that has been put into our life and understanding why it is happening. However, I do like to make a note that although it is happening, and we may or may not understand it, it does not mean that we should accept it. What you want to do is keep a positive attitude that while you may have this struggle present, you will work on resolving it down the road.

Step 3: Confidence. As we get older, we grow in various areas, but what about our self-confidence? We need to build-up confidence in order to believe that we can handle the struggles that come our way. How do you do this? Celebrate all victories, whether they are big or small. Be nice to yourself, just as you would be to someone else, and don’t be so hard on yourself, forgiveness goes a long way.


So what will come out of it all? Amazing strength that you never knew you had. The next time you are staring a struggle right in the face, practice these three tips, and see the kind of strength that shines right through you. Remember, not one person on this earth lives without challenges, adversity or struggles. It is an important part of life and growth as humans.

How have you overcome a struggle? Share your insights in the comments below.


About the blogger:
Angela Caban is an Army National Guard spouse, freelance writer, published author and branding expert. Her husband was one of the many soldiers impacted by the unprecedented activation of the National Guard in 2008. In 2010, she founded the Homefront United Network, a military spouse and family support blog created to assist spouses who do not live near an installation, but also focusing on bridging the gap between National Guard, Reserve and Active Duty spouses. She is also co-founder of SpouseTalks. As a branding and digital influencer, she has created content for A&E, Lifetime Network and PBS. She has an extensive background in Human Resources and Communications, with her Bachelor’s in Business Administration and a Master’s in Human Resources. Angela resides in the beautiful Garden State of New Jersey with her husband of 11 years and two children.


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