"The most important source of security to a child is the connection with parents." - Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg, M.D.
Parenting is indeed an adventure. Add to the mix one of the parents is deployed and you can have a stressful situation on your hands. How do you juggle it all?
I recently had the opportunity to attend a workshop on "Building Resilience in Military-affiliated Children and Teens," by Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg.
Dr. Ginsburg, M.D., is a pediatrician specializing in Adolescent Medicine at The Children's Hospital of Philadelphia and an Associate Professor of Pediatrics at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine.
He is currently working with The Child, Adolescent and Family Behavioral Health Office of the US Army and The Military Child Education Coalition to prepare military parents, health professionals, counselors, and teachers to incorporate stress reduction and resilience building strategies for the nation's nearly 2 million military-affiliated children. "The overriding goal of these efforts is to assure military spouses and children are prepared to thrive despite needing to cope with their loved one's deployment."
I learned so many great things at the workshop that have helped me that I wanted to share some with you.
Dr. Ginsburg highlighted the goal is to maintain strong connections through on-going communication, effective listening, and family rituals that will serve as reminders of the presence of the distant parent.
Distance can be a strong barrier when it comes to a deployed parent connecting with our kids.
Here are three tips for ongoing communication:
When it comes talking to our kids, not knowing what to say or saying too much can cause us to worry and to even not say anything at all.
Here are three tips for effective listening:
Keeping routines is important to providing the comfort of predictable days and events.
Here are three tips for family rituals or routines:
Dr. Ginsburg emphasizes loving our kids unconditionally and our kids knowing we aren't going anywhere. Taking the time to do some of these things can help your kids stay connected to their deployed parent and help foster these feelings in our kids.
What are your suggestions to stay connected to a deployed parent?
To learn more strategies visit Dr. Ginsburg's website.
Resource: Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings by Kenneth Ginsburg, MD, MS Ed, FAAP published by American Academy of Pediatrics 2011
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