I find myself to be extremely passionate about many things; my husband, children, work, family and friends. Adding to this list, there is also my military family. Without the many friends I have made in this community, I don't think I would have had the courage to stand up and speak out on behalf of so many National Guard families.
But my military family hasn’t always been there. National Guard families tend to be a bit secluded from active communities and while we have the support from our civilian community, it can be difficult during the times we must transition back into military families. The struggle of this can leave us feeling lonely, and sometimes feeling as if no one understands the life we live.
I made this a very important part of my life, not only for myself, but for the many other families out there. The HUN was born because of the push I received after my husband deployed and realized that just because there was no support at that time, I could create something for the future. Something that could help others connect, and spread a positive attitude and encouraging words throughout our community – we need it!
So with the many curve balls military life throws our way, we can sometimes get distracted from accomplishing goals. This is actually what I could have had stop me, after all, I felt alone in military life. Instead of letting the feeling of loneliness or lack of community support take over me, I let those same two obstacles help me to create something that would fill the gap. Determination had set in and I was ready to set some goals.
Even though there are various things that we have no control over or we just need a push, I use three very important strategies for myself when creating and accomplishing goals.
Set up your goals from the start. What do you want to accomplish? Write them down and hold yourself accountable. Sometimes designating an actual timeline helps me. If I don't meet the timeline, re-set the goal with a realistic time. Keeping notes on your progress also helps to see where you can improve in the process.
Involve others. Get your friends and family involved in the process; they will help to motivate you. What always worked for me was my friend knowing what I was working on and asking me my progress. This helped me to stay focused and not get side-tracked by life.
Don't beat yourself up. If you don't get what you want done in the time you had hoped for, don't worry. Re-set the goal for you and understand that sometimes it can take longer to accomplish. Military life, work, school and kids tend to take priority, so be realistic.
So even if you find that accomplishing your goals seems impossible, there is a support system of an amazing military community ready to root for you.
What ways are helpful for you when accomplishing goals?
About the blogger:
Angela Caban is an Army National Guard spouse, freelance writer, published author and branding expert. Her husband was one of the many soldiers impacted by the unprecedented activation of the National Guard in 2008. In 2010, she founded the Homefront United Network, a military spouse and family support blog created to assist spouses who do not live near an installation, but also focusing on bridging the gap between National Guard, Reserve and Active Duty spouses. As a branding and digital influencer, she has created content for A&E, Lifetime Network and PBS. She has an extensive background in Human Resources and Communications, with her Bachelor’s in Business Administration and a Master’s in Human Resources. Angela resides in the beautiful Garden State of New Jersey with her husband of 11 years and two children.
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