The life of a working mom can be a challenge at times. At home we are managing more than our fair share of housework and childcare, and at work we ensure we are making the right career moves in order to excel in our careers. This can often leave us feeling stressed and torn as to whether or not we are making the right choices for ourselves and our families.
Despite the stress and feeling of guilt, being a working mom can be a rewarding lifestyle for you and your family. We can relish in the satisfaction of pursuing our own professional goals as well as those of our family life.
If you could think of one thing that is most stressful to you about being a working mom, what would it be? Do you find it hard to balance both your work and home life?
This New Year I challenge you to make a resolution that you can not only keep, but a resolution that focuses on being a better you. A resolution that will help you find peace with that stress caused by doing the absolute best you can, because you are human and it’s ok to not have everything perfect all the time.
Here are 4 resolution challenges, you don’t have to follow them all, maybe just pick one and focus on it this year – or if you see yourself keeping the resolution, move on to another one and keep going!
Say no at least once a week.
Busy working moms have a tendency of having the “I can do it all” attitude and while it is great to accomplish things, learn to say no. You don’t have to be the mom who saves the day, there are always people around to help, and while it is nice to volunteer at school or help coordinate class parties, be firm when you simply can’t pile more on your plate – no guilt, just say no. Or if you can’t quite say no to someone in person, don’t be afraid to say, “Let me check my calendar and I will get back to you.” This is helpful when you really aren’t sure whether you want or can do something. Allow yourself the time to really think about it and how much time it would take away from something else.
I couldn’t possibly function as a working mom without outsourcing some of the tedious tasks that need to get done in order for my family to thrive. I refuse to spend my day off in a busy grocery store. So instead, I shop online during my lunch breaks and schedule deliveries for my order to be delivered to me at home. Many see this as a luxury, where for me, it is a necessity in order to keep my work/life balance and not be overly stressed. Think about something you can outsource… house cleaning, grocery shopping, or maybe a dog walker? Getting something off your plate will allow you to free up some time for something else that needs more of your attention. For me, it was making more weekend time with my kids. How about you?
Set yourself up for success the moment you wake up. Whether you wake up 30 minutes or an hour earlier, make it a habit to be the first one up. I noticed that when I had the extra hour in the morning, I could take care of some “me” things before everyone else was up and needed something. It can be as simple as having an hour to drink your coffee, or perhaps get yourself ready first for the day, or even squeeze in that workout. Everyone has a different morning routine, do something that will help you succeed and get ahead of the day!
Celebrate all your hard work.
Take the time to acknowledge how hard you work; this isn’t about boasting, but as a tool we hold on to for future use. The next time you are feeling stressed out or perhaps feeling defeated because things are just not going the right way, thinking of your hard work will make you realize just how much you are capable of. Not all days go as smooth as others - and we are allowed to have bad days. Don’t beat yourself up, keep moving – you are one impressive and hard working mom!
Will you try the working mom resolution challenge? Which one did you pick and why? Share with us in the comments below.
About the blogger: Angela Caban is an Army National Guard spouse, published author and branding expert. In 2010, she founded the Homefront United Network, a military spouse and family support blog created to assist spouses who do not live near an installation, but also focusing on bridging the gap between National Guard, Reserve and Active Duty spouses. She has an extensive background in Human Resources and Communications, with her Bachelor’s in Business Administration and a Master’s in Human Resources. Angela resides in the beautiful Garden State of New Jersey with her husband and two children.
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