dndwis: It definitely can be a challenge. We all become a different person based on our military experiences and the culture of the military.
I had a conversation recently with someone else who expressed some of the same thoughts.
Have you ever thought of going into business for yourself?
The idea is that you can create your work environment and create a job/career that you enjoy most.
I know a few people who've done this and they all say they wish they'd done it sooner.
What do you think?
Jobs are just that, jobs.
What is your passion? How do you make a living off of your passion? My sentiment is that a job will never pay YOU what YOU are worth because it is someone else's idea of what they want and need, not what you want and need.
Maybe a part time business to fuel your desire (and nice tax deductions to boot) and work that to full time and kiss the boss goodbye?
It can be done.
Best to you sir!